Almost all have extra-marital affairs, his parents or grandparents generation, nine out of ten also have experienced extramarital affairs, foreign scholars thus obtained, having an affair with a genetic conclusions.
The genetic, not referring to physical heredity, but the psychological inheritance. According to the analysis, mainly because the next generation of the previous generation of people revenge or compensation of psychology.
You get along with the love method is affectionate, independent, in fact, have your parents get along with methods of shadow; your parents fight childhood often suffer, perhaps in the future, you will unconsciously hit their children ... ...
Acquired genetic
Originally, I wanted to not like you ... ...
Arlene young life is this: the parents came home, my mother housework, cooked rice, eaten. Mother clear the table in silence, followed by washing dishes, wiping tables, sweeping, encourages everyone to wash clothes again after the bath, then go to bed.
This whole process is very quiet: the father never intervene, the mother will not complain. On the contrary, where the mother did not do a good job once, but many critical father, a phrase from the injury. In addition, there is little verbal communication between parents, the parents asked her test scores in addition to, basically no other conversation.
Until entering college, seeing girls in the same bedroom every night with his family pride drops to long distance telephone, talking and laughing about everything. Extremely envious of her, my heart thought to myself: I do not repeat their parents way of life, my home must be warm, I can talk about anything with her husband, no anguish can be shared.
Finally into the marriage, Arlene bucked the intimacy of love, ordinary life, work tired, Arlene came back home do not want to talk, her husband does not see her face, ask a few, Arlene felt inexplicable irritability, simply a statement is not made, or verbal abuse response. See the mess at home, the mood more easily agitated, and could not help but blame her husband did not do it, it did not do a good job that he has no hands-on awareness. Hard working husband who is not their own mother, of course, very displeased and the two men up more and more contradictions.
You may be "genetic" Who?
1, the environment, "important people"
The relationship between children and their parents (or other dependents) is the earliest and most important, so children will unconsciously recognized parents.
2, the attacker
The behavior of a son who could become much like the violence of their father, which is under attack at the same time, unconscious identity of the attacker's strength.
3, the loss of the object
"Lost object" includes the actual death of important people, important people have the illusion of death, and an important figure in the separation of time or permanent separation. Subconsciously, people who have lost themselves into, thereby denying the fact that the object has been lost. For example, the loss of his mother's daughter suddenly became very much like her mother.
This is difficult to resist the "acquired genetic" so terrible, not to change it? This is not quite exactly.
Now, you have realized, we can more clearly and more realistic understanding of themselves, so as the chance to try a more active, more consciously choose their own mode of existence and their own life.
Similar able to escape
"Unconscious identity" so you
Read the above story you will find that Arlene to her husband, more and more like the father of the mother, which is strongly she wanted to avoid. How so?
People will be dependent on their parents in childhood, gradually become larger with age, he increased independence, and ultimately grow into a truly unique individual. In this process, the rules will be in his environment, features into their own internal rules and characteristics.
This kind of subconscious recognition, without you I send. Only the most subservient to the left a profound impact on things and people.
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